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4 Reasons God Will Fight to Save Your Marriage

The Battle Is Not Yours
The Battle Is Not Yours

4 Reasons God Will Fight to Save Your Marriage?

Is your marriage crumbling right before your eyes?  Perhaps, you believe you just can’t take it any longer. You hear God say, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.” [1]  In desperation, you may respond, “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!” [2]

Whatever the marital situation, no matter the problem, God is for you.  It may appear hopeless, but there is good news. Our God is a Mighty Warrior. He is a jealous God.  He’s forever present. He, Himself, loves unity and prayed for it.  In this four-part series, let’s unpack the following four reasons God will fight for your marriage.

  • Reason #1:  The Battle is Not Yours, But God’s
  • Reason #2:  What He Joined, He Can Keep
  • Reason #3:  He Hates Divorce with a Passion
  • Reason #4:  Marriage is Typical

We will also review some significant ways to engage Him in battle.  So, let’s get started!

Reason #1:  The Battle is Not Yours, But God’s

Colossal conflict in a relationship often presents a dismal situation.  Both have drawn lines.  Each is pointing fingers.  Disheartening.  Not a few would readily respond like the proverbial ostrich by putting their head in the sand. Entangled in contention, would one profess, “This is not my battle?”  Not likely.  But, what if it isn’t your battle?

  Like David, a shepherd boy facing the mighty giant, Goliath[3], God’s people had a problem. The problem, a “great multitude!”  Yes, several of their enemies had joined forces and were coming to attack.  As told to the king, “A great multitude is coming against you..” [4] 

God heard the cry of His people.  Listen to the Lord’s response:

“‘Then the Spirit of the Lord came upon Jahaziel…’ And he said, ‘Listen, all you of Judah and you inhabitants of Jerusalem, and you, King Jehoshaphat! Thus says the Lord to you: Do not be afraid nor dismayed because of this great multitude, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.’” [5]

God revealed that they would not have to fight. God advised his people, “Position yourselves, stand still and see the salvation of the Lord, who is with you.” [6] The response of the people was obedience and worship that included praise.

Can we apply this perspective to marriage matters?  Would you love to hear God say, “You will not need to fight.”?

The First Marriage

In the beginning, there was a marriage.  God created a male and a female in His image. They became one, following God’s command to be “fruitful and multiply.” [7]  Adam spoke of Eve as being “flesh of my flesh.” [8]  Married life, as with all of God’s creation, was fantastic.

A dismal situation arose.  How so?  Eve happened upon the forbidden tree.  As a refined lawyer, Satan took advantage of the situation. Listen to the serpent’s introductory argument.  “And he said to the woman, ‘Has God indeed said…’” [9] A debate of what God said engendered questioning God’s intentions. Eve, deceived, samples the luscious fruit. Adam accepted Eve’s offer and ate.  Humanity allied with the serpent.  Allied? In what way?  In War!  When did that war start?

The First War

“And war broke out in heaven: Michael and his angels fought with the dragon; and the dragon and his angels fought,but they did not prevail, nor was a place found for them in heaven any longer.So the great dragon was cast out, that serpent of old, called the Devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was cast to the earth, and his angels were cast out with him.” [10]

The war started in heaven.  Satan, the Serpent, and his angels took a flight to the earth.  On earth, the war continued. 

Despite the new power struggle of earth’s first couple, the battle was not theirs. Tweet this!

Despite the new power struggle of earth’s first couple, the battle was not theirs.  The array of skirmishes, trials, and disappointments we face here on earth are a part of this much larger war. “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” [11] In the grand scheme of things, this war is between Christ and Satan.

The Seed, A Mighty Warrior

God introduced an incredible plan following Adam and Eve’s freedom of choice debacle. Spoken to His opposition, “And I will put enmity Between you and the woman, And between your seed and her Seed; He shall bruise your head, And you shall bruise His heel.” [12] God will fight for this married couple, any of their offspring, and for any future marriages, and their seed.  Matthew and Luke record the list of His begetters.[13]  To guarantee the birth of the Seed many marital and generational threats required victorious contest.  One name of the Seed, pre-incarnation, is El-Gibhor.  It’s meaning, Mighty God or Mighty Warrior. [14]  The Seed of the woman is familiar with the war. He will win! 

How to Engage God to Fight for Your Marriage

Position yourself on your knees in your prayer closet or sanctuary.  Call on the name of El-Gibhor. Worship and praise His name. Obey His voice, just as God’s people facing a great multitude were admonished to do. What might that look like today?

  1. Seek Christian marriage counseling; Biblical counseling: “Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water, But a man of understanding will draw it out.” 15]
  2. Take part in marriage enrichment activities: “Nevertheless let each one of you (husbands) in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” [16]
  3. Invite Godly individuals to pray with you: “Now I beg you, brethren, through the Lord Jesus Christ, and through the love of the Spirit, that you strive together with me in prayers to God for me,” [17]
  4. Ask the Holy Spirit to put, or keep, love in your heart for your spouse: Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us. [18]
  5. Last, cry out to God that He would get the glory: Not unto us, O Lord, not unto us, But to Your name give glory, Because of Your mercy, Because of Your truth.” [19]

When you consider our God as a Mighty Warrior, I pray that you find hope.  When you think on the Eden promise, may you lean upon strong arms of El-Gibhor to fight for you.  You are not in this alone. Always remember, the battle is not yours. Always remember Jesus.

Stay tune Reason #2, What He Joined, He Can Keep.

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[1] Mark 9:23 
[2] Mark 9:24
[3] 1 Samuel 17
[4] 2 Chronicles 20:1, 2
[5] 2 Chronicles 20:14, 15
[6] 2 Chronicles 20:17
[7] Genesis 1:28
[8] Genesis 2:23
[9] Genesis 3:1 
[10] Revelation 12:7-9
[11] Ephesians 6:12
[12] Genesis 3:15
[13] Matthew 1; Luke 3
[14] Isaiah 9:6; Jeremiah 32:17-18
[15] Proverbs 20:5
[16] Ephesians 5:33
[17] Romans 15:30
[18] Romans 5:1-5
[19] Psalms 115:1
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Charlton Alexander

President, Director at Adam Restored Ministries, Inc.
Charlton Alexander, the founder of Adam Restored Ministries, Inc., is passionate about reaching others who may not know that depth of love that God has for fallen humanity.He believes gender, marital, and sexual wholeness can be achieved when one's eye is single toward God's glory.
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