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Not a Piece of Cake

Not a Piece of Cake

I am so glad marriage is not a piece of cake.  Thirty-two years ago, July 28, 1985, at the Mt. Vernon SDA Church in NY, Alice and I said, “I Do” and then we did.  We did enjoy a wonderful reception at the New Rochelle SDA Church.  We did delight in a most awesome scrumptious meal. We did feed each other the tastiest slice of wedding cake. The cake was made by my very own Godmother, Rose Barnwell, and decorated by Christine Wells.  We did save the top-tier for our 1st anniversary.

It would be that during the early summer of 1986, we would move to North Carolina. I drove the U-haul and Alice, pregnant with Danielle, drove the Toyota Tercel.  Leslie, our son, would alternate as co-pilot from car to U-haul.  The trip, for lack of a better way to state it, was a trip.  Many disastrous events occurred; I will not relay them all now.  Nevertheless, if my mind serves me right, our bird got away and our cake melted and got all smashed up.  We had no idea of how to save a precious slice of cake for the trip.   I am so glad marriage is not a piece of cake.

Let’s face it!  You and I both know that there are more reasons to make such a declaration.   It is more fitting to state that marriage is a piece of work. The voice of experience, as well as, many marriage counselors would stand firmly behind this view.  Recently, I read a tweet stating “fight for your marriage.”  (Young couples, please to do not misread this as “fight in your marriage.”)  It will take enduring effort to keep your eyes on a much higher prize than wedding bliss experiences.

God has been so good to us I am literally in tears sharing this.  There are many that thought we shouldn’t have married.  There were times we truly struggled.  There were countless good times and so much laughter.  For example, we still laugh over the yellow, beat-up single-wide we spent $500 on.  “Now that was laughter!”  There are precious times, also.  We were married long enough to sit hand in hand at our Danielle’s marriage to Abdel Salek.  Our marriage, well in tact, recently welcomed into this world our first grandchild, Julian Alexander Salek, born on June 12 of this year.

Well, it is true, you learn something new every day.  After thirty-two years, I do declare, marriage is not a piece of cake, nor a piece of work.  It is a piece of faith.  The more I see what righteousness by faith is, the more I see that an enduring marriage parallels.  Two people made in the image of God can only truly glorify God–by faith.  Male and female made He them.  Male and female, He living in them.

Husband and Wife, crucified in Christ.  They no longer live, but Christ lives in them.  The life that they live in this “flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone” they live by faith in the Son of God, who loved us and gave Himself for us. (Galatians 2:20)

Today we celebrate 32 years of the awesome piece of faith called marriage!  Hallelujah!

Charlton Alexander
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Charlton Alexander

President, Director at Adam Restored Ministries, Inc.
Charlton Alexander, the founder of Adam Restored Ministries, Inc., is passionate about reaching others who may not know that depth of love that God has for fallen humanity.He believes gender, marital, and sexual wholeness can be achieved when one's eye is single toward God's glory.
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