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4 Reasons God Will Fight to Save Your Marriage

4 Reasons God Will Fight to Save Your Marriage?

Is your marriage crumbling right before your eyes?  Perhaps, you believe you just can’t take it any longer. You hear God say, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.” [1]  In desperation, you may respond, “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!” [2]

Whatever the marital situation, no matter the problem, God is for you.  It may appear hopeless, but there is good news. Our God is a Mighty Warrior. He is a jealous God.  He’s forever present. He, Himself, loves unity and prayed for it.  In this four-part series, let’s unpack the following four reasons God will fight for your marriage.

  • Reason #1:  The Battle is Not Yours, But God’s
  • Reason #2:  What He Joined, He Can Keep
  • Reason #3:  He Hates Divorce with a Passion
  • Reason #4:  Marriage is Typical

We will also review some significant ways to engage Him in battle.  So, let’s get started!

Reason #1:  The Battle is Not Yours, But God’s

Colossal conflict in a relationship often presents a dismal situation.  Both have drawn lines.  Each is pointing fingers.  Disheartening.  Not a few would readily respond like the proverbial ostrich by putting their head in the sand. Entangled in contention, would one profess, “This is not my battle?”  Not likely.  But, what if it isn’t your battle?

God’s people had a problem. The problem, a “great multitude!”  Yes, several of their enemies had joined forces and were coming to attack.  As told to the king, “A great multitude is coming against you..” [4] 

The battle is not yours!
The battle is not yours!

God heard the cry of His people.  Listen to the Lord’s response:

“‘Then the Spirit of the Lord came upon Jahaziel…’ And he said, ‘Listen, all you of Judah and you inhabitants of Jerusalem, and you, King Jehoshaphat! Thus says the Lord to you: Do not be afraid nor dismayed because of this great multitude, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.’” [5]

God revealed that they would not have to fight. God advised his people, “Position yourselves, stand still and see the salvation of the Lord, who is with you.” [6] The response of the people was obedience and worship that included praise.

Can we apply this perspective to marriage matters?  Would you love to hear God say, “You will not need to fight.”?

The First Marriage

In the beginning, there was a marriage.  God created a male and a female in His image. They became one, following God’s command to be “fruitful and multiply.” [7]  Adam spoke of Eve as being “flesh of my flesh.” [8]  Married life, as with all of God’s creation, was fantastic.

A dismal situation arose.  How so?  Eve happened upon the forbidden tree.  As a refined lawyer, Satan took advantage of the situation. Listen to the serpent’s introductory argument.  “And he said to the woman, ‘Has God indeed said…’” [9] A debate of what God said engendered questioning God’s intentions. Eve, deceived, sampled the luscious fruit. Adam accepted Eve’s offer and ate.  Humanity allied with the serpent.  Allied? In what way?  In War!  When did that war start?

The First War

“And war broke out in heaven: Michael and his angels fought with the dragon; and the dragon and his angels fought,but they did not prevail, nor was a place found for them in heaven any longer.So the great dragon was cast out, that serpent of old, called the Devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was cast to the earth, and his angels were cast out with him.” [10]

The war started in heaven.  Satan, the Serpent, and his angels took a flight to the earth.  On earth, the war continued. 

Despite the new power struggle of earth’s first couple, the battle was not theirs. Tweet this!

Despite the new power struggle of earth’s first couple, the battle was not theirs.  The array of skirmishes, trials, and disappointments we face here on earth are a part of this much larger war. “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” [11] In the grand scheme of things, this war is between Christ and Satan.

The Seed, A Mighty Warrior

God introduced an incredible plan following Adam and Eve’s freedom of choice debacle. Spoken to His opposition, “And I will put enmity Between you and the woman, And between your seed and her Seed; He shall bruise your head, And you shall bruise His heel.” [12] God will fight for this married couple, any of their offspring, and for any future marriages, and their seed.  Matthew and Luke record the list of His begetters.[13]  To guarantee the birth of the Seed many marital and generational threats required victorious contest.  One name of the Seed, pre-incarnation, is El-Gibhor.  It’s meaning, Mighty God or Mighty Warrior. [14]  The Seed of the woman is familiar with the war. He will win! 

How to Engage God to Fight for Your Marriage

Position yourself on your knees in your prayer closet or sanctuary.  Call on the name of El-Gibhor. Worship and praise His name. Obey His voice, just as God’s people facing a great multitude were admonished to do. What might that look like today?

  1. Seek Christian marriage counseling; Biblical counseling: “Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water, But a man of understanding will draw it out.” 15]
  2. Take part in marriage enrichment activities: “Nevertheless let each one of you (husbands) in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” [16]
  3. Invite Godly individuals to pray with you: “Now I beg you, brethren, through the Lord Jesus Christ, and through the love of the Spirit, that you strive together with me in prayers to God for me,” [17]
  4. Ask the Holy Spirit to put, or keep, love in your heart for your spouse: Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us. [18]
  5. Last, cry out to God that He would get the glory: Not unto us, O Lord, not unto us, But to Your name give glory, Because of Your mercy, Because of Your truth.” [19]

When you consider our God as a Mighty Warrior, I pray that you find hope.  When you think on the Eden promise, may you lean upon strong arms of El-Gibhor to fight for you.  You are not in this alone. Always remember, the battle is not yours. Always remember Jesus.

Stay tune Reason #2, What He Joined, He Can Keep.

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[1] Mark 9:23 
[2] Mark 9:24
[4] 2 Chronicles 20:1, 2
[5] 2 Chronicles 20:14, 15
[6] 2 Chronicles 20:17
[7] Genesis 1:28
[8] Genesis 2:23
[9] Genesis 3:1 
[10] Revelation 12:7-9
[11] Ephesians 6:12
[12] Genesis 3:15
[13] Matthew 1; Luke 3
[14] Isaiah 9:6; Jeremiah 32:17-18
[15] Proverbs 20:5
[16] Ephesians 5:33
[17] Romans 15:30
[18] Romans 5:1-5
[19] Psalms 115:1
One Steadfast Look to the Saviour

One Steadfast Look to the Saviour

One Steadfast Look to the Saviour
The purity, the holiness, of the life of Jesus as presented from the Word of God, possess more power to reform and transform the character than do all the efforts put forth in picturing the sins and crimes of men and the sure results. One steadfast look to the Saviour uplifted upon the cross will do more to purify the mind and heart from every defilement than will all the scientific explanations by the ablest tongue. – EGWHITE

How Can I Change?

How Can I Change

How can I change?

How can a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your word. Psalm 119:9

Gird up the loins of your mind, says the apostle; then control your thoughts, not allowing them to have full scope. The thoughts may be guarded and controlled by your own determined efforts. Think right thoughts, and you will perform right actions. You have, then, to guard the affections, not letting them go out and fasten upon improper objects. Jesus has purchased you with His own life; you belong to Him; therefore He is to be consulted in all things, as to how the powers of your mind and the affections of your heart shall be employed. —The Adventist Home, p. 54. EGWhite

Christ is the perfection of divine character. He is the model we are to follow. Peter’s words are full of meaning: “As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance; but as He which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation; because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy” [1 Peter 1:14-16]. —Testimonies on Sexual Behavior, Adultery, and Divorce, p. 134, EGWhite

Christ came to bring salvation within the reach of all…. The most erring, the most sinful, were not passed by; His labors were especially for those who most needed the salvation He came to bring. The greater their need of reform, the deeper was His interest, the greater His sympathy, and the more earnest His labors. His great heart of love was stirred to its depths for the ones whose condition was most hopeless and who most needed His transforming grace.—In Heavenly Places, p. 291 EGWhite


Grace for the Struggle

Grace for the Struggle

By the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain, but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me. 1 Cor. 15:10

There are those who attempt to ascend the ladder of Christian progress; but as they advance, they begin to put their trust in the power of man, and soon lose sight of Jesus, the author and finisher of their faith. The result is failure–the loss of all that has been gained. Sad indeed is the condition of those who, becoming weary of the way, allow the enemy of souls to rob them of the Christian graces.

The love of God in the soul will have a direct influence upon the life and will call the intellect and the affections into active, healthful exercise. The child of God will not rest satisfied until he is clothed with the righteousness of Christ and sustained by His life-giving power. When he sees a weakness in his character, it is not enough to confess it again and again; he must go to work with determination and energy to overcome his defects by building up opposite traits of character. He will not shun this work because it is difficult. Untiring energy is required of the Christian; but he is not obliged to work in his own strength; divine power awaits his demand. Everyone who is sincerely striving for the victory over self will appropriate the promise, “My grace is sufficient for thee.”

Through personal effort joined with the prayer of faith the soul is trained. Day by day the character grows into the likeness of Christ. . . . It may cost a severe conflict to overcome habits which have been long indulged, but we may triumph through the grace of Christ. . . .

If we are true to the promptings of the Spirit of God, we shall go on from grace to grace and from glory to glory until we shall receive the finishing touch of immortality.

Original Title is “The Grace of God is for Me” from My Life Today, p. 99.  EGWhite

Dignity Without Pride

Dignity Without Pride
My lips shall not speak wickedness, nor my tongue utter deceit…. My righteousness I hold fast, and will not let it go: my heart shall not reproach me so long as I live. Job 27:4-6

We should preserve the strictest chastity in thought, and word, and deportment. Let us remember that God sets our secret sins in the light of His countenance. There are thoughts and feelings suggested and aroused by Satan that annoy even the best of men, but if they are not cherished, if they are repulsed as hateful, the soul is not contaminated with guilt, and no other is defiled by their influence. O that we each might become a savor of life unto life to those around us!

There is great need of a deeper appreciation of the holy truth of God. If all had a realization of the solemnity and weight of the message, many sins that are now carelessly committed would cease from among us. Is there not too often the common thought and communication mingled with the sacred themes of truth? Wherever this is done, the standard is lowered. Your example leads others to regard the truth lightly, and this is one of the greatest sins in the sight of God.

It is the privilege of every one to so live that God will approve and bless him. You may be hourly in communion with Heaven; it is not the will of your heavenly Father that you should ever be under condemnation and darkness. It is not pleasing to God that you should demerit yourself. You should cultivate self-respect by living so that you will be approved by your own conscience, and before men and angels.

It is not an evidence of true humility that you go with your head bowed down and your heart filled with thoughts of self. It is your privilege to go to Jesus and be cleansed, and to stand before the law without shame and remorse. “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit” (Romans 8:1). While we should not think of ourselves more highly than we ought, the Word of God does not condemn a proper self-respect. As sons and daughters of God we should have a conscious dignity of character, in which pride and self-importance have no part

This text is from the devotional book That I May Know Him, p. 140. by Ellen G. White.

How Can I Do It?

How Can I Do ItGenesis 39:7-12

How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God? Genesis 39:9.

It is always a critical period in a young man’s life when he is separated from home influences and wise counsels and enters upon new scenes and trying tests. But if he does not of his own accord place himself in these positions of danger and remove himself from parental restraint; if, without will or choice of his own, he is placed in dangerous positions and relies upon God for strength—cherishing the love of God in his heart—he will be kept from yielding to temptation by the power of God who placed him in that trying position. God will protect him from being corrupted by the fierce temptation. God was with Joseph in his new home. He was in the path of duty, suffering wrong but not doing wrong. He therefore had the love and protection of God for he carried his religious principle into everything he undertook.

Joseph’s faith and integrity were to be tested by fiery trials. His master’s wife endeavored to entice the young man to transgress the law of God. Heretofore he had remained untainted by the corruption teeming in that heathen land; but this temptation, so sudden, so strong, so seductive—how should it be met? Joseph knew well what would be the consequence of resistance. On the one hand were concealment, favor, and rewards; on the other, disgrace, imprisonment, perhaps death. His whole future life depended upon the decision of the moment. Would principle triumph? Would Joseph still be true to God? With inexpressible anxiety, angels looked upon the scene.

Joseph’s answer reveals the power of religious principle. He would not betray the confidence of his master on earth, and, whatever the consequences, he would be true to his Master in heaven. Under the inspecting eye of God and holy angels many take liberties of which they would not be guilty in the presence of their fellow men, but Joseph’s first thought was of God. “How can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” he said.

If we were to cherish an habitual impression that God sees and hears all that we do and say and keeps a faithful record of our words and actions, and that we must meet it all, we would fear to sin.

This text is from the devotional book Conflict and Courage by Ellen G. White.